90/10是个超乎想象的巧妙法则！
    The 90-10 principle is incredible.     很少人知道并且应用这项秘诀，结果造成几百万人白白受到压力、考验、问题、心痛等困难折磨，并且他们的生命似乎成了最大的失败，厄运连连，坏事好像一直不断的压力、消极，和破碎的人际关系随处可见，因为担忧消耗了他们的时间，愤怒破坏了友谊，人生似乎愈趋颓丧而无法享受满足与丰盛的生命……。
    以上的描述像是在描述你嗎？以上的描述像是在描述你吗？
    Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life.
    如果是，别难过，你的生命可以不一样！ 只要你了解并且应用这个90/10法则呢？
    Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?
    它其实是在说：人生只有10%会被发生在你身上的事情影响，然而却有90%是被你面对事情时的反应决定。
    10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
　　这代表什么呢？ 我们真的无法控制那百分之十发生在我们身上的事情，就像我们无法阻止车子抛锚，飞机误点……。
    We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
　　但另外百分之九十不同了。 你可以决定这百分之九十！ 如何做呢？ 善用你的反应。你或许无法控制红灯，但你可以控制你对红灯的反应。
    The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?
　　别让其他人影响你，你可以控制自己的反应！
    By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
　　我们举个例子。
    Let's use an example.
　　你正与你的家人在吃餐，你的女儿不小心打翻一杯咖啡倒在你的衬衫上，你完全无法控制这件事情的发生，但接下来会发生什么事情，就由你的反应决定了。
    You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
　　你开始骂人，你为了这杯打翻的啡严厉的责骂女儿，她难过得哭了。 在骂完她后，你转过身开始骂你的妻子，你责怪她把咖啡杯放得离桌子边缘太近了，紧接着是一段针锋相对的火爆场面，你愤怒的离开去换你的衬衫。
    You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
　　当你回来的时候，你发现女儿因为哭得太难过而来不及吃完早餐，她错过了公车，你的妻子必须马上去工作，你往车子冲去并且开车载女儿去学校。 因为你快要迟到了，只好超速驾驶。
    Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
　　在迟到了十五分钟并被开了一张罚单后，你终于到了女儿的学校，她一下车就跑向教室，连「再见」都没跟你说。 迟到二十分钟后，你到了办公室，然后发现自己竟然忘了带公事包。
    After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
　　你的今天才刚开始糟透了，并且似乎愈来愈糟，你开始期待回家时间。 当你回到家的时候，却发现自己与女儿和妻子的关系有了裂痕。
    Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
　　为什么你会有这么糟糕的一天呢？
　　A:是那杯咖啡造成的吗？
　　B:是你的女儿造成的吗？
　　C:是警察造成的吗？
　　D:是你造成的吗？
　　答案是Ｄ。
    Why?
    Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?        
    A) Did the coffee cause it?A)Didthecoffeecauseit?
    B) Did your daughter cause it?B)Didyourdaughtercauseit?
    C) Did the policeman cause it?C)Didthepolicemancauseit?
    D) Did you cause it?D)Didyoucauseit?
    The answer is " D".Theansweris"D".
    你无法控制那杯咖啡倒在你的身上，但你对这件事情如何反应影响了接下来发生的事情。
    You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
　　另一种可能的情况是这样的：咖啡倒在你的身上，你的女儿见状快要哭了，你温柔的说：「亲爱的，没关系，下次小心一点就好。」拿着毛巾上楼快速换好衣服，并拿着公事包准时下楼，看见你的孩子搭上了公车，她转过身向你挥手说再见。 你提早五分钟到公司，并且笑脸迎人的与人打招呼……。
    Here is what could have and should have happened.Hereiswhatcouldhaveandshouldhavehappened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
    发现其中的差别了吗？ 两种完全不同的状况，但却有相同的开始。 为什么呢？ 这其中的差别就在于你如何反应。 你真的无法控制发生在你身上的事情，但你可以控制自己的反应。
    Notice the difference?Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
    这边有几个方法来应用90/10法则
    Herearesomewaystoapplythe90/10principle.
　　如果有人给你负面的评语，别像海绵一样马上就吸收，而要让这些攻击如同镜面上滑过的水一样，丝毫不受影响！ 恰当的反应不会破坏你的一天，但错误的反应却会使你失去朋友、被炒鱿鱼、压力太大……。
    If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
    现在你知道如何使用90/10法则了。 实践它，你将惊讶于它所带来的神奇结果。
    You can be different!Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!
    『人有见识就不轻易发怒；宽恕人的过失便是自己的荣耀。 』
    编者按：在传播NLP的这几年中，经常被问到为什么要学习NLP，一直觉得这个问题不好回答，看了这篇文章后，我知道如何回答了：学习NLP，你就可以决定这关键的百分之九十！
 

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